Don't look back, you're not going that way

This could be classed as lazy blogging but I wrote a post on my FB page that I liked and thought was important. So for anyone reading this blog that does not follow my page I thought I would share it here....

I often tell people that the quickest route to unhappiness is comparing ourselves to others. But a close second is living in the past.

I used to do this a lot.

Looking back at past times I enjoyed and wishing it could "be like that again", or looking at past mistakes and reliving them in my head with the hope somehow I could make the wrongs, right. Well, it won't and I can't. None of us can go back.

At some level, we all know this, yet still, we do it.

But, and this is a BIG but, we can learn from the past.

The stuff that made the good times good can be repeated, the mistakes we made can be avoided.

Our past does not determine our future, but it can inform it.

We all wake up each day with the chance to turn things around, take those first steps to doing and being what we have always wanted to do and be.

Don't let thoughts of, it's too late, I am too old, I am not good enough and 100's of other reasons we can come up with not to be who we truly want to be, stop you from trying.

So I write this post today for the person who is ready to go for it, make that change, do that thing. Yes you may be scared, yes you may have self-doubt, but take the first few steps in faith and the confidence will grow. And once you take those steps just keep looking ahead and don't turn back, your best is in front of you, go for it.

Have a great day and take care of yourself

Gareth

Support, getting and giving it.

We all need some help and support sometimes. I believe this that's why it is on the home page of my website. Why do I believe this? Because it is help and support from others that had made the difference in my life when I was struggling.

Sometimes the difference of success or failure in things we take on can be a little bit of support. But to get it you have to as for it, and for some people asking is just too hard, why? It's your ego!

When people tell me, they have "no ego" or even better "I have removed my ego" I always have a little chuckle inside. We all have ego's we need one, and they keep us alive.

If you find yourself struggling right now with some aspect of your life the only thing stopping you from getting the help is your ego. So tell the ego to do one and reach out for some support.

The flip side to getting support is giving support. We can all have a massive impact on others if we are willing to offer support when it's needed. A simple act of kindness can have an enormous effect on another person and helping someone when they need it not only help them, but it will give you a deep sense of satisfaction so its a win/win.

Understanding the importance of support, both giving and receiving will change your outlook on many things and once you get used to asking for it and giving it, you will have a much happier life and will surprise yourself how far you can go.

Imagine a world where we were all comfortable with asking for and giving support, what a wonderful world that would be.

Take CARE

GB

Get flexible.

When we start new things it vital that we are constantly appraising the situation and making adjustments.

It's good to have a plan but you need to be flexible with it.

Having the correct mindset around changing things quickly when required or seeing any opportunities that may arise along the way can help us move forward faster.

One BIG reason people struggle and stutter with change is that they become so focused on having to do it the way they planned that they leave no room for flexibility.

So what is the correct mindset?

Well, firstly recognise a plan is just a plan, it can be based on many assumptions and those assumptions could be wrong. Once you start to put your plan into action some new facts may appear and if you understand that and are ok with it, you will do better.

Secondly, just because it's not all plain sailing does not mean you have got it wrong, in fact, to go further and say if it was all plain sailing I would say you have probably got it wrong. Dealing with self-doubt is part of the journey, we all get it, accept that and push on through it.

Change is a challenge, at times it can feel beautiful and flowing, at other times it can have us on our knees ready to quit but if we have faith and keep going and deploy some flexibility when required, we will get to where we want to be.

Only a short blog this week, but an important content that we all need to understand if we are wanting to change some stuff in our lives in a positive way.

Take CARE

GB

Being Yourself.

I posted a quote on my Facebook page this week, the quote was:-

"Be yourself, everyone else is taken"

It was a quote that had an impact on me some years back and one I like to remind myself of every now and again.

So this week when it saw it again I felt it would be good to share with the people following my Facebook Page. What I was not prepared for was the number of people it would have resonated with and who would like the post.

I am at the early stages with the page and for me, 6 or 7 likes is a decent performance for anything I put on there. But this quote has had over 40 likes as I write this and that blew me away.

It's clear that being ourselves or the challenge we face in actually being ourselves is something a lot of us find hard.

As anyone who is familiar with my CARE system will know, CLARITY is so important, knowing what we want is essential to any change process or self-improvement. But CLARITY around who we are and our authentic self if even more fundamental that CLARITY around what we want.

Once we are coming from a place of authentic self, being who we really are, we make better and more meaningful decisions in everything else.

So if you are reading this and you have trouble showing the REAL version of who you are, a couple of things.

1. You are not alone, we all have challenges around this.

2. It takes courage and faith to step out and be YOU.

But once you take the first step in faith, the courage to be yourself will come, but you have to take that first step in faith and that's the scary bit.

So, I challenge you after reading this to take that first step. We are all uniquely different and even if you don't believe it, the real version and authentic version of you is more than good enough.

We all have one desire as humans and that is to be "Happy" and the way to be truly happy is to be yourself, so start today that journey into showing the world who you really are. I look forward to meeting the real you.

Take CARE

GB

Keep moving forward!

This week has been a real week of ups and downs. I wanted to share this so anyone reading my stuff either here or on Facebook realise that even though I am somewhat trained in how to improve mindset, it's not always plain sailing for me.

I am 3 weeks into my Autumn project and on the whole, it has gone well. But where the first two weeks went smoothly, this week I had to dig deep.

Everything I tried just felt like hard work, and I think a lot of people can have days and weeks like that.

Now I could post a load of positive, smiley images on Instagram and Facebook and I could write this blog about positive stuff, but that would not be true. If I expect people to be authentic and real with me, I need to be authentic and real with them.

So what I want to say in this blog is that even though some days will come up when your get up and go has gone, just keep moving forward. Step by step, even if those steps are difficult, you are getting closer to your goal.

Writing my blog is in effect the last act of the working week for me, so to be doing this and posting it now feels like I have ticked all the boxes and despite it not feeling so great, the week has been efficient.

I have a weekend of chilling out planned with a walk in what looks like wet weather planned and I feel confident that I will step into next week ready to take it all on again.

So whatever you are up to next week, remember, it may be a smooth one, or it may be a challenging one, but if you have a plan, keep it simple and keep doing the work, you will still be doing well and be moving forward. And moving forward is what it is all about.

Take CARE

GB

The Autumn Project.

All through the summer of 2018, I had been working towards starting some new things once we got into September.

I am a big fan of fresh starts, new projects and drawing a line in the sand and moving on and the 1st of September gave me the chance to do all of the above.

I had consciously taken some time away from developing my online work and promotion of "Taking CARE of Yourself" I needed to really leave it alone and get some clarity around the next stages in not just my business development but my own life and personal development. The time away was just perfect.

This year in the UK we had an amazing Summer and for the first time in 3 years, My partner Sue and myself decided to not have a Summer holiday as such and instead use the time between June and September to enjoy my home and spend more time outdoors in the UK. I enjoy hill walking and the weather along with the time away from real work gave me the opportunity to walk a lot more and walk in some places we have never visited before. I managed a couple of weekends away with my kids and we have created some great experiences that will live long in the memory.

But once I woke up on Saturday the 1st of September, I was ready to get going again. Autumn 2018 is all about building for the future and I was excited to get into what I am now calling the Autumn project. So I thought I would share in this post a basic outline of the project, it will help the readers see just how I deploy my CARE system in my own life.

I have 3 focus areas that cover off what I see as my main challenges:-

1. Improved fitness and muscle growth.

2. The growth of a community for people interested in personal development.

3. Creation of a seperate business that can become a passive income stream.

The thing you will see straight away is that it's not that complicated because there are only 3 focus areas. Also, the 3 focus areas I have some knowledge about so nothing on the list is too overwhelming and all are very practical as far as achievement is concerned.

The key to getting the results in the areas in more about consistency than capability as I recognised it is consistency that I need to develop as this will help me in the next 12 months.

I have also made this a short 3-month project as I think anything longer than that can give us the illusion we have loads of time an therefore easily become complacent and actually get little done.

So in each area, I have set a schedule for activity that is simple but challenging, but not too challenging. I have kept the steps so simple that really I have plenty of room for other stuff to come up and still be manageable. But my simple schedule is written down and that makes it easier to remember and follow.

If things go as I have planned by the time we enter Winter I will have a small effective community building that can support everyday people in improving their lives if they desire to do so. I will also have developed a set of practices around my diet and training that will give me a body that has more energy and ability to do my walking and working and I will have an income stream that allows me to continue to enjoy the lifestyle I have designed since 2016.

I would really encourage anyone reading this with some challenges to overcome or goals to chase to actually take some time to sit down and write a simple plan, and by simple it should fit easily on an A4 sheet of paper. That sheet of paper should be read each day to keep your focus and the actions you take should be small actions just above your comfort zone.

By doing this in time and with some patience you will be surprised how far you can go.

I am 2 weeks into the Autumn Project and so far I am pleased with the progress if I can keep this up for another week or so I will have confidence in the process and my consistency will be holding.

Take CARE

GB

Don't let fear hold you back.

Of all the things that have held me back over the years, I would list fear as the greatest one. The fear of what "may" happen as stopped me taking opportunities and chances that lay before me.
And the more time I study people and work with clients, I see this fear of change coming up over and over again.
In the last 12 months, I have had moments when fear of doing something had me immobilized and in the end, the opportunity passed.
I feel fear around change at times, we all do and so you are reading this and not changing some things or doing some things in life because of it, you are not alone.
But this is the thing, all the things I feared never materialised. All the times I was kept awake at night before meetings or events because I had some fear about going was wasted because once I got in the room or to the meeting it went well. In fact more than went well, I genuinely enjoyed them.
Most of our fear is based on what we 'Think" it might be like.
What I now strive to do is when I feel fear come up I change my thinking, I look not at what I fear could go wrong, but more on what could go really well. This way of thinking is a game changer.
Even the most successful people feel fear, it's a natural human response. The people that seem to do better in life are the ones who feel the fear but do it anyway. And to step into the fear takes a bit of faith. Faith that a lot of the fear is imagined and faith in yourself that you will be able to do that thing you have the fear around.
So if you are reading this and right now have something you are putting off because of it I would encourage you to have faith and go for it. It's never as bad as you imagine and on the other side of fear is growth.

Take CARE
GB

Ready to Rumble.

The last week has been pretty much taken up learning as much as I could learn about podcasting. I feel the podcasting craze is real and just like YouTube and Facebook before it, we will see an increase in the number of people podcasting and as the applications to listen to them get easier, more people will be listening.
Time is our greatest asset and where video and reading are popular, we can't do those things when engaged in other pursuits such as working out or driving. But podcasts can be listened to really anywhere and anytime with the addition of a pair of headphones. 
I made my podcast like at the start of the week and I set myself a target of having 10 episodes up before I went away later today. I currently stand at 9 and once this blog is posted I will be recording episode 10 and then my goal is complete.
Seven days ago I had a very basic setup for the podcasting but in typical Gareth style, I had to get some more tech this week to complete my studio. I know I am a big kid but I still get excited about new "Boys Toys" and do believe we should always use the best equipment available to us.
So now I have enough tech and equipment to make a small radio station envious and all I need to do now is produce content. 
I return home from a short break on Monday and that will mark the start of my real journey into growing my "Taking CARE of Yourself" brand. Lots to do and all of it exciting so I am officially ready to rumble...Let's do this.

Take CARE
GB

Time to share the CARE

On the 20th of July 2018, I celebrated 4 years since I stopped drinking.
Although I always judge my sobriety on quality, not quantity I still like to take the 20th of Julys since 2014 as a day to reflect. I look back at the previous twelve months and what has changed in my life and how I have changed in key areas. This year was no exception.
Durning this years time of reflection I was aware of how my knowledge of online platforms has improved. I have become quite a dab hand at building websites, creating videos and producing content. But something was missing and that was producing content about my CARE system.
In truth, I have been taking it easy and concentrating more on the methods to create content that actually creating the content itself. 
So my focus for this next 12 months is to use my website, facebook, social media and now a brand new podcast to share my CARE system with the world.
I will blog occasionally and as and when it feels right because I want to concentrate on blogging as my primary method of delivering my message.
So I suppose this blog marks the start of a new and exciting journey and one that I am well up for.

Take Care

GB